Don’t Let People get Under your skin
Are you someone who lets people get to you? It could be you are oversensitive, and it’s a common problem. But, there are ways to lessen the impact of this behavior. You need to start off by realizing that when you let people bother you, they win. Not let things bother you and try to get rid of annoying people.
They have the upper hand in the relationship. When you continually dwell on what they did or said, they have already moved on. And, if they see that you are bothered by their actions, they will get a twisted satisfaction from this. There is a Buddhist saying that suggests animosity towards others is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.
Another way to get around your anxiety is to think about a proverbial fork in the road. You can choose the anxious path of the fork, or you can choose the calm, serene one. The calm path will give you peace and help you relax. The anxious path will build your anxiety to the point where your health is adversely affected. Just think about the fork and select a path. Hopefully, you will choose the calm path more often than the anxious one. Keep in mind that it is a choice and it is yours to make.
Try meditation to forget about how other people have wronged you. It is a great stress reliever, and it can be relaxing for your mind, body, and spirit. Another saying suggests, that praying is talking to God, while meditating is your way to listen to Him. Prayer is also another way to help relieve the pent-up anger you may have. Of course, this will only do you good if you believe.
Think about the energy that anxiety creates in your mind and body. Then, think about how that energy can be better used doing something positive. Try volunteering or go to the gym. Again, you have choices when it comes to how you allocate your energy. Use as much of your energy for positive activities. There are 24 hours in a day. If you spend the majority on those positive experiences, you will have little time for negative ones.
Just imagine, if you have $2,400 in your pocket and someone comes and steals $100 out of them. Would you throw the rest of the $2,300 at him? Of course not, Right? This can be related to your daily life as well. You have 24 hours in a day if someone ruins your one hour with negative communication or criticism why would you waste your rest of the 23 hours thinking about it. Just leave that one hour behind and make the rest of the 23 hours better.
It’s easy to let people get the best of us, and it is difficult to get past the anger we feel inside. However, we can live better lives by pushing that anger away from us and not letting others be in control. It’s all about where you want to allocate your energy.
You can care less about what others think but beware for the inner anger
You want to care less about what others think if you can. However, it’s never a good idea to be rude about it. Even if you feel someone is intervening when they shouldn’t, you should always take the high road.
People’s opinions about your life are unimportant. However, you may consider the opinions of certain people more than others. For instance, your spouse and your parents are going to rate high on the scale of caring what they think. Even here, however, you have to use your judgment and speak up when they are going too far.
When you are rude to others, no matter the reason, you risk damaging your relationship with them. This damage can take time to heal, and it may never heal. It could also cause adverse effects. For instance, if you are rude to a colleague at work, it could come back to haunt you. It’s difficult to say if they will have an impact on your job or career some point down the road. Is it worth the risk?
It’s tempting to be rude to certain people, like the busybodies in your life. Some neighbor or relative always put their nose where it doesn’t belong. You would love to tell the person to mind their own business. When they go overboard and offend you, then you should speak up. However, most of the time, it’s not worth expending any energy on them. If the situation gets out of hand, simply resolve to spend less time with them.
Sometimes, people don’t realize they are the ones being rude. They may not have learned that their behavior of budding in is inappropriate. If you would like to keep a relationship with these people, consider speaking with them about it, but do it carefully. They may take offense initially, as they are unaware of what they do.
However, if they are true friends, eventually they will come around and consider what you told them. If not, they will simply break the relationship with you. Which is probably something you’d want if it gets to that point.
You are in control of the situation. By keeping calm and not confronting people (whenever possible), you will continue to retain control. If you get to the point where exchanges get heated, it’s easy to lose that control. At that point, you may end up saying things you will later regret, and it’s much harder to recover from such situations.
So please Don’t let people get under your skin, no matter how hard they try.!
I love you guys! Stay on the good path!