The truth about being optimistic
We all see people around us every day being negative and always unhappy. You might think that to be optimistic is hard and out of your range. Everything around you reminds you how difficult life is and circumstances are not always at your side. How can you be optimistic? The truth is that to be optimistic is like you go to the gym. Needs practice and exercise. Is not an innate quality. As scientist very well know now, our inner filters and the way we perceive the world is all about. Once you understand that everything is a reflection of your inner world then you become free of the chain reaction. You understand that in reality you can change everything and become something else. I want to tell you about the truth. If you want you can do it! You just need to follow some steps.
1. Keep a journal for your negative thoughts
The events itself they cannot create any emotion. The way we perceive the events is what creates the emotion. Negative or positive. When you keep a journal with your thoughts it helps you understand better your reaction to the external events. What came in your mind when you got angry, jealous, sad, desperate, etc. when you become aware of what your thoughts are about the specific event then you understand that you can just change it and perceive it in another way. Write down everything that bothers you in the day and be there. Be there with the thought. Examine, turn over, change and humor the thought. Is your emotion the same? Do it every day.
2. Choose to be the one you want to be
What I mean is that if you can imagine yourself being nice or happy or kind then your subconscious will collaborate to that. Consciously stay to the side of making fun out of everything that bothers you. In a while, the events will disappear!! You create the most of those things inside your mind and then reality just bend. Is the Law of the Universe.
3. Observe how other people react in the same situation
This will really help you to see yourself in a different way. Are people reacting the same as you? Or not. If not why? What makes the difference. If Yes why? What do they think? Is the same for you? If not how is different. What do you feel when you see them reacting in a certain way? Why do you feel like that? What can you do to change your self? What would you suggest to them to do?
4. Make a list of likes and dislikes
Dedicate a page at your journal to note down everything that you like in your life or in the world, at your job, at your family, everywhere. Choose the ones first that make you feel good. Notice how you feel when you are nice to someone and how you can enhance that in your life. Then make your list of dislikes. What makes you feel really angry, worthless and helpless. What can you do about it? Are these feelings yours? Maybe are the feelings that they taught you to have? Maybe somebody in your family was reacting the same way as you under specific situations?
5. Be thankful
I cannot stress enough how much your life can change only by simply being thankful. Tell to people who have been genuinely kind to you how much you appreciate them. Tell your wife/husband /kids thank you for everything they do and you will see how the good things they do will dominate the reality!!
And last but not least sing!!! No sad songs, please!!!
I love you guys!!! Stay on the good path!!!
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