What to do when your heart is broken?
Mend a broken heart is, unfortunately, something that is a part of life. It is a pain that can be so dramatic and massive that it feels like a physical blow from which you will never recover. It is not uncommon to want to curl up into a ball and hope that you wake up and everything is all better and back to normal. But as much pain as you might be in, you know this is not reality. And as much as I would like to say there is a natural, simple solution to get over the pain of a broken heart, the simple truth is that there is not.
There is no quick-fix band-aid solution to mend a broken heart. And in a certain way, you can consider this a good thing. Feeling this much pain means that you are capable of also handling a tremendous amount of pleasure and happiness. They go together and are opposite sides of the same coin. If you were to feel no pain at all, imagine life as an emotionless, flat line… that is no way to live. And while it is cliche to say this, it is true; time heals all wounds. So while there is no “quick” fix, know that with the time you will recover and get back to your old self.
Few Tips to Mend a Broken Heart
♥ Cooling down
Allow yourself some time to get the old hurt out of the way first before you consider getting into another one. Do not get involved with another partner immediately after breaking up with your lover. This will prevent yourself from merely making use of your new love for healing a broken heart from love but not because you love him/her too. It will be very unfair to both of you if that happens, and it will only hurt you even more. However, you should not be taking months or years to get over the old hurt. Be fair to yourself and put your heart and soul back together as soon as possible.
Do not try to avoid healing the wound and pretend that nothing had happened. It is essential that you should confront the past so that you can mend a broken heart from love rather than letting the hurt dwell on deep in your heart. As days go by, it will only get worst. Do not allow it to take over control of your love and cause you to go into depression. Doubtless, to say, that is more easily said than done, but it is better to accept the truth right from the start and try to get out of the hurt as soon as possible.
♥ Waiting for Time
It is very often untrue to say that time will heal all the pain, and you should wait for the hurt to go away. It is better instead to be proactive and try to improve your wound instead of trying to indulge yourself in other activities or inactivity in an attempt to forget about it. Take measures to heal that pain. Go out and meet friends and start life all over again. It is worthless to stay miserable over a lost love.
♥ Love Yourself
Sinking yourself into depression or over-indulge in food is not going to benefit you! Gather all your strength, time, and energy into loving yourself. Find out if you have new interests and fill your life with good things will help better in mending a broken heart from love than surrounding yourself in misery. Accept the truth and move on! Get a new life!
♥ Seek Help
If you found that you are facing great difficulties in healing your hurt and that you are getting deeper and deeper into depression, it is time you seek help. Do not feel ashamed that you have to join a counseling or support group to get out of the old hurt. Admit that your self-esteem has been damaged by the unexpected turn of events in your love life and seek help to repair that damage. Getting help from these trained professionals will help you to see yourself in a positive light and get you ready to face the world again after your success at mending a broken heart from love so do not feel shy in talking it out with a counselor.
♥ Face your Emotions
It can be tempting to give in and give up and try and push your emotions away, but this is not the way to deal with or cope with your broken heart.
In fact, not addressing your feelings and your emotions is a surefire way to dwell on the past and drive yourself into a depression. It could also make it so that you are doomed to repeat the break up with your next partner due to unresolved feelings and emotions.
♥ Don’t stay Alone too Long
It can be tempting to hide away in your room and pretend the world doesn’t exist, but doing so will not help mend your broken heart. It is understandable to take some time to yourself to help improve your wounds and move on from your broken relationship, but there is a limit to how long is too long. And exceeding those limits can be harmful to you, both physically and emotionally.
You need to get back out into the world and living your life. Give yourself the time to grieve and heal, but don’t overdo it. If you feel like you’ll never get over your break up or you are thinking of hurting yourself or others, you need to seek help. Being upset and needing time to yourself is healthy, know when you’ve been alone too long.
♥ Move On
This one may seem so simple on paper, but it can be one of the hardest things in the world to do. You’re going to go through a whole wealth of emotions, and this is perfectly normal. But continuing to move on with your life will make your life better and will help heal your heart. Getting out and living experience will allow you to live life more.
Healthy living is always a balance. Each needs to find what that balance is for them, and what ‘things’ go on each side of the scale to keep things in a healthy balance for you. We all have “life” and the stresses associated with all that comes with it on the one side. Things such as finances, work, family, time management, relationships… It is critical to find some counterweights to those things. For me, writing, doing yoga, cooking and helping others to be happy, keep things in balance. Sometimes more of one than the other, but they’re all mixed in there in some way, the shape or form.
To sum up I will give you the advice Bouda gave
♥ Keep your heart broken but open. Share compassion. Look to give away your love.
♥ Feel the feelings. Drop the story.
♥ Take a step back from your thoughts. Discipline is the medicine. Watch your thoughts every day like a guardian.
Doing so you will clearly see that you are not your thoughts but the observer. So how your thoughts are creating?
Will talk about this on another article. For the moment stay away from the obsessive thinking.
♥ Last but very important!! Embrace your life as a path. The foundation of a strong mind and open heart creates an authentic life and joy. I hope by following these small tips you could mend a broken heart!
I love you all!!! Stay on the good path!!